How Long Is Too Long...To Hold On?

I'm sure that many of you have been caught in the personal dilemma of knowing that you have stayed way to long in a relationship, friendship, job or situation.

And once you realize it, it seems that you are Frozen in that moment, wondering if you have now missed all of the perfect opportunities to walk away with dignity and clear Karma.

So you wait for the right time.....again

Wait until the children start school....or have finished high-school...then college...
                    or until you have <insert unattainable amount of money here> saved up.....
                                          maybe you stay because the person or situation still requires your attention

Whatever your reasons are, you feel justified in waiting a little longer and yet at the same time feel trapped and stuck. You begin to believe that there is no way out. Your energy level drops significantly and maybe your emotions have got you so caught up in the fear of disconnecting that you are beginning to feel depressed.

But seriously, How Long Is Too Long To Hold On?

I know these feelings all too well, and although it's been many years since I have experienced them on the level that I just described, I can remember them and the power that they can hold over you, as if it were yesterday. And for those of us who are prone to "stay longer than we should", we seem to attract similar situations over again, throughout life.

And when we are finally ready to love ourselves more than we love the fear and uncertainty - We realize that we haven't waited too long to let go and move on. That we have already met the challenges of this life lesson and that it is OK to detach.

So how do we do this from a loving space?

When I notice this happening in my life now, It is a different experience for me because I have learned how to evaluate the situation, realize what is best for me (which by the way, is usually what is best for all involved), and step away.

Do I still tend to stay longer than I should? You betcha - but it's for a different reason now and I am able to handle it differently than I did many years ago. 

"Find your sacred, quiet place within yourself and you'll find guidance"

I'm able to look at the situation from a different point of view. One that is free from judgement and fear of the unknown.

The reality is not always the perfect scenario that I imagine in my mind, but my technique allows me to detach from the emotions that would once feed the fear in the past.

The technique is so simple, that you can give it a try today...

5 Simple Steps to Detach from What No Longer Serves You

1. Take a moment to quiet your mind - take three deep breaths and allow yourself to just "be".
   
2. Allow yourself to either see, feel or sense a sacred, quiet place that is within.
   
3. Now allow yourself to get in touch with the situation that you are feeling stuck in.
   
4. Notice that it looks/feels different when you are experiencing it from this sacred place - it is free from the emotional attachment that blocks your ability to think rationally.
   
5. Once you are looking at it from a different angle, allow yourself to become aware of the unhealthy aspects of staying attached to it - do this for yourself as well as anyone else involved.

When you are able to do this, you will be able to connect to the solution - emotion free and implement it for the highest and best good of all involved!

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